HALF OF PART I TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR INTERACTING WITH KIDS ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM AND RELATED COMMANDMENTS * (only sharing fist part – if want more go check out/buy book that’s right price!)

1.  THOU SHALL NOT YELL WHEN SPEAKING TO ME.

My disability does not impair my hearing and I am extremely bright.

Perhaps even brighter than you are.

1. THOU SHALL NOT IGNORE ME TALK NEGATIVELY

ABOUT ME, SPEAK UNNATURALLY SLOW, OR ASK

QUESTIONS TO OTHERS IN THE ROOM THAT

PERTAIN TO ME.

1. THOU SHALL BELIEVE IN ME AND HELP ME

BELIEVE IN MY SKILLS AND SELF WORTH.  NOTE

THE GOOD IN ME AND DO NOT MERELY POINT

OUT MY NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS.

Believe in me and I will believe in myself.

1. THOU SHALL NOT PERCEIVE ME AS DUMB.

I am extremely intelligent. I do not learn in the same way as you, and

maybe not as quickly as you expect me to.  Have patience with me.

Once I recall information, I never forget.

1. THOU SHALL NOT JUDGE MY BEHAVIOR

I can get overstimulated in certain environments. I maybe hypersensitive

to sound and loud noises may hurt my ears.  Fluorescent lights are

distracting for me. Thea have a humming noise and can pulsate.  All the

noises in a room can blur together. Please make accommodations to

help me.

******All of the above come from the book(pages 12 and 13) Ten Commandments Of interacting with Kids On The Autism Spectrum And Related Commandments by Mari Nosal.

Now it is time to inventory my parental behavior after seventeen years.

Commandments

1. Of course I have yelled.  I am human.  I try not and will try even harder.   Like the Ten Commandments, it is hard for anyone to be perfect.  The point I am taking away from this is if you are doing it all the time and never make an effort there needs to be huge changes.  I try very hard and still have to watch very hard.  It is not an easy task.  I hope this book does for you what I wish I had known.  Maybe then my learned behavior wouldn’t be like kicking smoking.
2. Guilty.  Still do this some. Yet, did a lot when he was a child.  I think most parents do this out of concern and love instead of malice. Again, younger parents and teachers take the advice and wisdom.
3. I always believed in my son.  Careful though with all those extra therapies.  My son Tanner asked, “Mom how stupid do you think I am?”  He thought I pictured him as dumb and needed to fix him.  I told him that I had problems when I was younger and I didn’t get help.  I told him I was trying to give him something I didn’t get to help me with the stress and strain.  Perceptions and Deceptions a slight tongue imbalance but oh how the emotions roll off so different!.

1. See 3 tis the same to me.
2. Guilty again.  I defer a little here.  I say these kids need to be held to a same high standard.  One has to get to know these kids well while working with to figure out when they are playing you and not.  I know I have seen my son play reading on 4th grade level and finally nailed him this summer on 11th grade using a MicroSoft 2010 Grade Reading Readability Calculator.  He still tried to wiggle out but now I have him in a regular History Class.  The school provided a one on one aide without me throwing a fit.  The schools have always been great when it comes to my son.  Maybe a couple of minor things but the schools rule for me.

OVER ALL IT IS TIME TO BUY THIS BOOK…ESPECIALLY FOR YOUNGER MOMS.  SHORT STORY TIME TOO.

My son used to scream loud and piercing in the car.  I would pull over and check on him.  One automatic act was to turn off the radio.  When he got older and put two words together he said, “Music Off!”  By Ollamok